3 Signs You're In A Controlling Relationship

There are always obvious signs or what I like to refer to as “the writings on the walls” that serve as a clear indication that you just might be indulging in a potentially controlling relationship.

It turns out that usually, that thing that attracted you to your man may turn out to be the one thing he uses to control you. 

6 Statements That Are So Offensive (SHADY) to Your Friend

You can still be real and tell the truth without offending someone.  It’s common to use jokes and laughter as a way to intentionally say harsh, misguided comments to someone.  Or better yet, are you guilty of speaking aloud the first thing that comes to your mind without thinking. Another big mistake I know I’ve made is saying things out of anger that I am fully aware would hurt someone’s feelings.

Are You Guilty of These 5 Relationship Mistakes?

It’s been a rollercoaster week for me- oh boy.  But I still managed to catch Love and Hip Hop's Wedding of the Season for Yandy and Mendeecees Harris.  Weddings are so special and for the most part bring out the good in people… at least in those individuals who are happy for the union. 

Is Your Relationship Lacking That Trust Factor?

Who don’t love obstacle courses… of course you do if you're in a relationship!  This weekend, my relationship was tested when I explored my adventurous side and went hiking with my husband.  Let me just say, it was truly like walking into the wilderness – or simply the thrill of trying something new.

Friendships Tested on the RHOA Reunion Show

This season, the RHOA reunion show aired in three segments.  Of course they saved the true drama for last night.  Despite the fact that it was drawn out, I loved the all-white attire worn by the cast members.  Plus, the bulk of the conversation was truly all about Nene.

Here are three things you can learn from this show that could potentially help you fix issues in your relationships.

The 5 Funniest Dating Quotes Ever

Every now and then, we all need a funny, light-hearted post that makes us laugh and say “That was corny, BS!”  Last week was a very stressful and discombobulated week.  Nothing went as planned, but it eventually ended on a good note over Sunday Brunch and a little retail therapy.

Prayer for Peace in My City of Baltimore!!

 

My mind and heart is heavy today, but GOD.  I love living in Baltimore, but right now only GOD can change the chaos and confusion going on in my city. It’s disturbing to see the video footage plastered across our local news.  I know I’m not alone in the cry out for an end to this madness.

5 Signs There's Trouble in Paradise

 

Happy Tuesday BLUSH Beauties!  It’s been a long day at work for me and I’ll be heading to the market shortly, which is never fun.  But before I head out, I just wanted to share that every woman should experience true love at some point in their life.

My Friend’s Personal Battle

My heart is heavy today because I found out that one of my dearest friends has Breast Cancer. Over the years I’ve supported so many fundraisers for Breast Cancer out of shear support for the cause and women as a whole.

Is Being A Stay-at-Home Mom For You?

 

As a mom-to-be I’m pretty sure the thought popped in your head of being a stay-at-home mom.  Today, I came across this interesting article that addressed the dollar value one husband associated with the responsibilities of his stay-at-home wife.

After calculating a salary of $73,690 (which included costs for child care, cleaning and cooking), he expressed that “he could no longer afford his stay-at-home wife.” 

The Best Relationship Tips From Love & Hip Hop

Of course I watched the season finale of Love and Hip Hop New York last night!  There were so many relationship tips that I knew my BLUSH Beauties could benefit from some relationship lessons learned.  So here’s BS advice for the top 3 relationships that struck a nerve.

1. Chink & Chrissy
Why, If I Can Have My Cake And Eat It Too!

If a man sees you as a side chick or mistress, he’ll have no benefit to wife you.  If he already has a wife and is getting away with murder by messing around with you, there’s no logical reason for him to prefer to leave his wife and be with only you.

Celebrating 1 Year of BS!

This week is completely dedicated to celebrating BLUSH Society’s Blog turning 1!  Tomorrow, March 25^th will mark exactly 1 year from the day I started this little blog. And during the course of 1 year, a lot has changed. 

When I first started blogging, I had no specific topic I wanted to focus on, so I tried tackling everything...not a good thing to do.  Eventually, between my love for sharing relationship tips coupled with the positive feedback I received on relationship topics, it was a no brainer for me.

Check Out The Top 6 Posts by BS!

 

I'm so excited because BS will be turning 1 on next week! Plus today is my hubby’s birthday so I've been celebrating but could not skip my blog.  So with all these amazing events going on, what better time to catch up on some of our most popular posts that our BLUSH Beauties have enjoyed reading and sharing their personal comments on.  Here are our top 6 posts since hitting the web that you should truly read. 

Are Couples With No Kids Selfish?

Hi BLUSH Beauties,

By now it’s obvious that I love giving relationship advice. On the flip side, I enjoy receiving feedback from my BLUSH Beauties on relationship topics as well.  This is going to be a short and sweet post because I have one simple question to ask.    

"AreCouples With No Kids Selfish?”

So, I would love to get your honest opinion about this question. You may have heard this comment from time to time or the question, “What are you waiting for?” Although people don’t know your story or your plans about having kids, they automatically assume couples with no kids are selfish.

I want you to help me understand if It's being selfish.  I know I’m not the only woman whose been told this. So not only will you shed light on this topic for me but your comments will help other BLUSH Beauties in the same boat.

 

Trust me, you should not lose much sleep on this because people who make these kinds of comments clearly should be a non-factor in your plans.

I know people don’t mean any harm and not everyone knows how to ask a question without being offensive... I get that. So share your thoughts on “Are Couples With No Kids Selfish?”

 

Love,

Adonus

3 Foolish Mistakes We Make When in Love

It’s a beautiful thing when you’re happy in love.  But find out how to avoid making 3 foolish mistakes in your relationship.  It’s common that ladies are so happy in love that we get lost in the relationship sauce.  Corny right?  The point is that you don’t want to get too happy or comfortable in your relationship that you start losing your self-identity.

Ironically, the 3 Foolish Mistakes We Make When in Love represents common reasons why relationships tend to fall apart.  Ladies, in the midst of all the relationship bliss, you must learn how to bring a balance and start putting yourself first.

Is Sex on the First Date OK (Love or Lust)?

Not all BLUSH Beauties are in committed relationships.  So, I’m here to address the biggest question most women have about dating.  Is Sex on the First Date OK (Love or Lust)?

So here I go again with my TV shows- I was watching the Valentine’s Day episode of the Real.  One of our favorite reality couples was on the show- Cynthia and Peter for RHWOA.  Cynthia revealed that she and Peter had sex on the first date.  Since their first encounter, they’ve been married for 5 years.

We all have our opinion about having sex on the first date.  You’ve probably had sex on a first date yourself, so is it OK and do you consider this:

4 Tips: Money is the Root of All Evil

 

I know you’ve heard the saying, “money is the root of all evil.”  The truth is that the love of money is the root of all evil.  But bigger than that, money happens to be one of the common reasons for divorce besides the obvious, infidelity.

A bulk of your relationship problems stem from mismanaging money and disagreeing about money.  It’s a no brainer that money creates tension and confusion in our lives, which requires a great deal of effort to fix.

Are You Guilty of Loving Someone Too Hard That It's Wrong?

 

So I finally had a chance to watch the Whitney Houston Lifetime movie and Bobby Brown’s exclusive interview.  It was truly heartfelt and captivating to get a glimpse of what life was like for two individuals in love. 

I have to admit that the one statement that resonated in my thoughts was best stated by Bobby Brown himself- “Sometimes we, you know, love a person so hard that we’re loving them wrong, and maybe I did that.”

Why Do Fools Fall in Love?



Ladies, stop giving up your independence.  No matter how successful or powerful a woman seems to be, when she’s in love, she’ll start willing giving up parts of herself. 

Whether it’s your me time, social life or moral beliefs, you must create limits in your relationship.  If not, you’ll soon realize that you gave so much of yourself that if the relationship happened to end today, you’ll have no life to go back to.

My Love Letter to My Husband

 

Over the weekend, I spent a ton of time cleaning up around the house and throwing away things.  While going through a stack of old papers, I stumbled across a love letter I wrote to my husband literally ten years ago, which was around the time we started dating.

While reading the words on the sheet of paper, I was at awe of how I candidly- and shall I say “eloquently” expressed my feelings about our new, blossoming relationship.  It was like reading a scene out of Poetic Justice.

The Reality Check Your Relationship Needs

Not all reality shows are a waste of time.  At one point, I was kind of embarrassed to share that I watched reality TV shows because it was a dirty word. 

But the more I watched, I realized a common thread.  To some degree, they painted a picture of issues and success in my very own life- obvious not every show.

BLUSH Quickie: Why Complicate Life?

 

My sister Lee sent me this weeks ago and when she read this week's post, she reminded me of how perfect this related to 3 Things Every Woman Should Demand in a Relationship. 

3 Things Every Woman Should Demand in a Relationship

Here at BLUSH Society, 2015 is the year of Relationships.  It’s the one thing we all struggle to balance in our life.  Although some relationships are clearly a waste of time, it’s not an easy thing to walk away from. 

Why… because you are emotionally attached and it’s easier to settle because the thought of calling it quits, breaks your heart.  This is so ironic, because you probably find it easier to start and quit so many things in life from quitting a new job to quitting that workout regimen you just started 13 days ago.

#1 Way to Stick to Your New Year’s Resolution

 

I am so excited to share that on New Year’s Day, I created my 2015 Vision Board!  It was tons of fun flipping through magazines to find the right pictures and words to visually describe my goals for the year. 

Before I realized the time, it was 2 A.M. and I was sharing my Vision Board with my mom and sisters.  My board included everything from my family life, making more money and of course BLUSH Society.

It was eye opening to visually see on paper what it is I want to accomplish in 2015… plus the added bonus of spending time with my girls.