3 Signs You're In A Controlling Relationship

There are always obvious signs or what I like to refer to as “the writings on the walls” that serve as a clear indication that you just might be indulging in a potentially controlling relationship.

It turns out that usually, that thing that attracted you to your man may turn out to be the one thing he uses to control you. 

All women have an intuition, but when we think we are in love, we overlook the obvious signs that we are entering into a controlling relationship.  Over the years, I’ve seen 3 deadly attractions that set the foundation for controlling relationships.

1.    Money- as women we love to claim our independence (thanks to Beyonce), but behind the hype, you’re looking for a man who can take care of you. 

ü  Avoid being manipulated by money.  Every woman wants to be financially set for life to take care of their family, enjoy vacations and have the finer things in life.  But, being attracted to a man for his money can ultimately hold you captive in a controlling relationship.

 

ü  If a man feels you are with him for his money, he’ll find a way to use it against you and get away with murder when it comes to being faithful or exhibiting other acts of respect.  And like some women, you’ll fall victim to accepting your man’s cheating ways in order to maintain your comfortable lifestyle.

 

2.    Religion- don’t fall victim to the all-mighty use of religion.

ü  A man with too much power is dangerous. 

Religion is a powerful tool that too often is abused and used to manipulate you into believing and doing things in the name of faith.  Beware… it’s so easy for religious doctrine to be misinterpreted by men for their own benefit.  Likewise, you’ll be brainwashed into believing and doing things that makes absolutely no sense and goes against your personal morals.

 

3    Compliments- give a woman a compliment and you’ve won the key to her soul.  Be careful ladies, it’s the oldest controlling trick in the book.  A compliment doesn’t cost a thing, but for a woman who suffers from low self-esteem, it is very easy for a man to control you with words. 

Once a man knows he’s won your heart just by saying nice things and then he graduates to telling you what to wear, he knows he has control over you and your self-identity.  Soon, he’ll have no problem twisting those same compliments into harsh sayings to use against you. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

P.S. Ladies Love B.S.

Adonus