3 Foolish Mistakes We Make When in Love

It’s a beautiful thing when you’re happy in love.  But find out how to avoid making 3 foolish mistakes in your relationship.  It’s common that ladies are so happy in love that we get lost in the relationship sauce.  Corny right?  The point is that you don’t want to get too happy or comfortable in your relationship that you start losing your self-identity.

Ironically, the 3 Foolish Mistakes We Make When in Love represents common reasons why relationships tend to fall apart.  Ladies, in the midst of all the relationship bliss, you must learn how to bring a balance and start putting yourself first.

1.    Check Your Appearance at the Door

I know when I first got married; I was so in love that I put on 30 lbs of happy weight.  That’s a lot of extra loving that was added to the mix. Despite hearing, I love you no matter what size you are.  The truth is that I was not happy with myself.

As I mentioned in last week’s post, by nature we are naturally attracted to someone first and then we start falling in love with their personality and mannerisms. 

Don’t get too happy that you blindly let yourself go.  It’s true that the way you got him is the way to keep him.  That includes making it a priority to keep your hair done or to go the extra mile to dress up for dinner dates. 

Let’s be real, for instance if you put on too much weight it can interfere with your sex life.  All these things are critical to your appearance and keeping your relationship adventurous and fresh.

2.    Add Some Fun and Diversity Through Friendships

I must say when you first fall in love, it’s a good feeling.  Just like all new things we want it to last forever, but the reality is the newness will eventually wear off.  And when it does, you’ll realize the importance of having a variety of relationships in your life.  Every woman should have strong friendships with their family and friends that extend beyond you and your spouse.

For one, you’ll realize it gets boring being cooped up under your spouse all the time. Sooner or later, he’s going to need some alone time or time for his boys. 

Learn how to set aside time to spend with your mom, sisters or girlfriends.  The truth is that they help fill that void when you’re fed up with your spouse or just really need some space… let’s just say a change of scenery.

Trust me breaks are a good thing.  It doesn’t necessary mean there’s trouble in paradise.  I’ve learned that being away from my husband from time to time, makes us miss each other more and we tend to want to make arrangements to go out on a date or do spontaneous things to keep the relationship interesting. 

Ladies, if you plan to spend the rest of your life with your spouse, you want to be missed from time to time.
 

3.    Time to Drum Up Some Personal Goals

Don’t get so lost in the relationship sauce that you lose sight of your personal goals.  Women tend to commit this mistake when they have a spouse and kids are added to the mix. 

Your happiness in life is not only tied to having a flourishing intimate relationship but also achieving your personal goals.  Whether it’s finishing your degree or taking piano lessons or getting your hair done every two weeks- you have to find time to focus on yourself.

The last thing you want to do is make everyone in your household happy by pushing them to following their dreams and your left empty inside because you’ve abandoned that thing in life that could potentially bring you happiness by putting your goals on the back burner.

Love,

Adonus